Ten Ways to Care for the Caregiver

Cancer care can feel like a 24-hour job. As with other long-term illnesses, you may become emotionally drained from caring for your loved one and worrying about how their illness is changing them. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. It helps you stay healthy and better able to care for the person you love.

1. Plan regular breaks.
Set aside time away from caregiving on a regular basis, even if it’s just an hour. Use it to do something just for you.

2. Stay connected.
Isolation can lead to depression. Don’t give up activities outside of cancer because you “don’t have time.” It’s OK to go to your book club, your place of worship, or out to lunch with friends.

3. Join a caregiver support group.
Talking with others who understand caregiving can really help. Support groups meet in person, by phone, and online. Ask your social worker or navigator about groups near you.

4. Get help with care at home.
This might include visiting nurses or home health aides. It can also mean help with cleaning, shopping, or caring for pets.

5. Ask for help with money worries.
Cancer can bring financial stress. Your social worker or navigator can help with insurance questions, bills, and resources.

6. Be an active partner at appointments.
Go to appointments with your loved one when you can. Bring a list of questions. Speak up to get the information you both need, and don’t leave until you understand the answers well enough to explain them to others.

7. Ask about respite care and getaways.
Respite care gives you a short break while someone else provides care. Some programs also offer trips or retreats for families coping with cancer. Ask your social worker what’s available.

8. Include your loved one in daily life.
Invite them to join everyday activities, even if they can only watch or keep you company. Staying connected matters for patients too.

9. Take care of your own health.
Keep up with your own doctor and dentist visits. Try to get enough sleep, eat regular meals, and move your body. Even a short walk helps. See our article on Compassion Fatigue and Self-Care for Caregivers for more ideas.

10. Know your options at work.
If you work, talk with your employer or human resources about flexible schedules, leave options, or the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA), which may allow you to take unpaid, job-protected time off to care for a family member. Some states also offer paid family leave.